There are so many different ways to use a dildo, you just have to play around until you find what feels best. It may take time, it might require experimenting with position, pillows and thrusting styles.
You can even try double penetration (using a dildo in the vagina and anus at the same time) to experience intense combined orgasms. The key is to lubricate and have fun!
Warm it up
The first thing you should do before you start using a dildo is warm it up. This can be done a couple of different ways depending on your preference. For example, you can rub the dildo on your anus or clitoris to get a feel for it before you insert it. This will also help you build up to the more intense penetration that comes with using a dildo.
You can also heat your dildo by running it under hot water. Just make sure you don’t use an extremely hot water or your dildo could end up melting. You can also place it in a bowl of ice water for a few minutes to cool it down.
Lastly, you should always use plenty of lubricant with your dildo. This will decrease friction between your skin and the toy, and it will make it more enjoyable. You can choose to use a water-based or silicone lubricant. Whatever you do, just remember that personal preference is what really matters when it comes to enjoying a dildo.
It’s important to do some form of foreplay with your dildo before inserting it, regardless of whether you’re using it alone or with a partner. Getting the blood flowing to the area can help make it feel extra receptive, which can enhance pleasure later on. This can include finger play on the clitoris and inner labia, as well as gently stroking other erogenous areas of the body such as the nipples or butt cheeks.
Adding some different temperatures to the shaft of your dildo can also create new sensations, as can moving it in and out or spinning it. A lot of women love to “milk” their dildo, which involves running it against their clit to experience the pleasure of “feeding” it.
If you’re not sure where to start with your dildo, try masturbating it while wearing it to get a feel for its heft and the movement you can create with it. You can also try out different masturbation positions with it, like walking/dancing/prancing around the room or even masturbating while it’s strapped to your chest, hand, thigh, or forehead (there are harnesses for all of these, too!).
Lube it up
It’s important to use a good quality lube for a dildo, especially one that goes into the G spot. Lube reduces friction and can make a world of difference, even in dildos made from materials like glass or stainless steel that are hypoallergenic.
You should also try to lube up your body before you start using a dildo, so that the experience feels more sensual and less dry. For instance, running a textured toy against your clitoris or masturbating on your back with your legs pressed together can be very satisfying.
In partnered dildo play, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what feels pleasurable and what doesn’t. It can also be helpful to set the mood with dim lighting, a relaxing music track, or some scented oil that’s safe for use on the skin. Lastly, Sparks recommends buying a reusable dildo and cleaning it thoroughly with a eco-friendly toy cleaner after each use to avoid bacteria buildup. This will keep the dildo smelling fresh and help it last longer. You may also want to consider investing in a few different sizes of dildos.
Insert it slowly
Whether you’re using a dildo solo or with a partner, it’s important to get yourself into the mood. Turn yourself on with whatever method works for you – it could be ethical queer porn, free erotic fiction or just some simple self-pleasure play. Once you’re feeling hot and ready, apply lube to the head of your toy and insert it slowly into the vagina or anus.
Taking things slow will allow you to appreciate the weight and feel of the toy, as well as how it responds to thrusts and clitoral stimulation. Some people prefer to rotate the dildo once it’s inside, which is a surefire way to hit the g-spot more often and harder.
Some dildos also come with a shaft-twisting mechanism, which allows you to tease your own clitoris while experiencing internal pleasure. Try penetrating yourself to a shallow point and then twisting the dildo to experience intense internal orgasms. This technique also feels amazing with a partner, as you can enjoy dual stimulation for a powerful blended orgasm. Try it with a rabbit, bullet or wand vibrator and you’ll be hooked.
Most women need mixed stimulation to orgasm, so having the dildo in deeper than just the G-spot can enhance your pleasure. Pushing the toy in deeper with your hands and moving your pelvis around can also make it feel even more exciting.
Another cool way to use a dildo is during 69 play. Let your partner massage or kiss you and use their mouth to stimulate the clitoris while they slide the toy in and out of your anal canal. This can double your pleasure and make the experience more sensual.
Just remember to use lube, lots of it, especially when using a dildo for 69 play. You also want to be sure that the dildo you are using is made from nonporous material. Porous sex toys can harbor bacteria, fungus, and general gunk that can lead to STIs. Nonporous materials, like metals and glass, are a safer choice for dildos. Using a dildo is fun, but it’s important to know how to use it properly to avoid injury and infection. Try these tips the next time you want to use your dildo for 69 play.